Jon and Kate–My thoughts
Okee-dokee…the announcement is out that Jon and Kate Gosselin are getting a divorce…enough stuff has been published about the facts….Mike Foster makes some really good comments here regarding the issue.
What really nailed me from Mike’s article was this fellow Larry who made a really insightful thought to the whole issue…….
I admit that I don’t watch the show, my wife does however so when she heard of the big announcement that was going to be made on Monday night I knew she would watch and then cry (pregnancy does that sort of thing). But the truth is, shouldn’t we all have reacted that way. This is reality, i know, and yes there is money involved, and maybe there is an outside chance this was staged for better ratings and more money, but possibly this was a real life event and they are separating. In that should we not all have been broken for a couple and their 8 kids who are going through the break down of a marriage, crying for them, praying for them?
A comment to those who posted about the marriage being rooted in Christ, all the statements that have been refer to Jon and Kate being Christian and founding their lives in grace and mercy, unfortunately they now are part of the statistic of over 50% of ‘Christian” marriages that end in divorce. Sadly we have more divorces in marriages rooted in Christ then we do in the ’secular’ world.
This can be for a lot of reasons and is but maybe many of the divorces link to Mike’s post on accountability, possibly we suck out on living with integrity and blame it on our accountability partner not asking the tough questions.
In no way am I attacking anyone who posted I just feel that we need to understand the full truth of the statements we make and that is that many many marriages that are rooted in Christ still break apart. It has a lot to do with free will and the battle between flesh and spirit. Enough from me now, be blessed.
(Larry)
Now my thoughts…..
Actually Larry’s figure regarding divorce and Christians is pretty accurate.
The thing is we as the TV watching consumers like to treat TV personalities like the romans did the gladiators. The part that is really sad is that the personalities eat up that attention like I eat biscuts and gravy….one of my favorite foods….and they end up getting addicted to it.
Honestly I think both of them at one point were REALLY addicted to the reality TV thing. To be honest I think Kate still is…..I think that maybe Jon bottomed out and messed up. We can speculate and try and place blame….the fact of the matter is their marriage crashed and burned…..and like Larry said…we have no room to talk.
I am probably the last person in the World who needs to talk about marriage success…I have been through 2 of them.
I would appeal to Pastor’s and counselors who read this….change the focus of your premarital counseling…don’t just be "yes" men. Look honestly at those couples and force them to look at themselves and each other and help them to realize that the journey they are to embark on is not one of wine and roses but off hard work, pain and some tears and ultimately coming to the realization that "Love" is not that thing you do 3 times a week…but a commitment that lasts a lifetime….
I would also appeal to Pastor’s to return to a standard of Church Discipline….just because a person is a piano player Sunday night does not give them special dispensation to sin…People need accountability for the sake of their own souls. Mind you I am not talking about a dictatorial type approach…I am talking about Older Men and Women in the Churches paying attention and coming alongside couples who are struggling and in love help them to find the freedom to change (discipleship…right?). It also means when 1 or both people in the marriage don’t want to change then for them to apply Matthew 18:15-17 and as a body hold them accountable.
Well I am going to hush for now
